Here at The McGovern Caplicki Team we believe in living Big Lives. While most of us are in quarantine, we thought it might be helpful to share some insights we have learned that give us great clarity and help with mindset so that we can live life to the fullest- even (and especially) during a pandemic. We hope you find value from our 6 part series – Stay Sane @ Home.
Stay Sane @ Home – Step 1 | Control Your Mind
Alarm goes off, we pop up out of bed, (or sleep a little longer) only to eventually rush through the craziness of our day.
There’s no doubt we’ve all been spread thin….work from home, teach your kids, cook, clean, dare to go out to find toilet paper, stay sane, keep everyone else sane…pivot, pivot, pivot!
You name it, we’ve become the jack of all trades. It seems new responsibilities are added daily. So how can we do better for ourselves? And our family? And our friends? How we show up to a given day or situation will trickle down to those around us.
Step 1: Set Intentions – Gain Control
Okay, so this may sound a little woo woo – but before you pop out of bed stay there for a moment. Decide how you would like your day to go. Profess it to yourself. It doesn’t have to be complicated.
Here’s an example: “Today I will have fun and be happy.” or “I will easily tackle all of my goals today.” or “I will find ways to have fun even if things aren’t working out as planned.”
Take moments throughout your day to re-group. We are always so busy worrying or thinking about everyone else that we forget to take care of ourselves. It feels good to feel good, so why do we spend so much of our time feeling bad?
By setting intentions throughout the day we are in essence protecting our mindset. By doing so we can gain great control of how we react to any given situation.
Here’s how to do it – Simply state the outcome you would like from an activity before it begins. Or, if you find yourself in a stressful moment take a time out to re-set your intention of the event’s outcome.
For example, what outcome would you like from a specific conference, conversation or project? Perhaps you need to have a tough conversation with your employee or co-worker. You may want to set the following intention beforehand. “We will have a productive meeting. John will be on board with the new changes and I will feel empowered.”
Maybe you’d like to have more patience with your children. You can also set an intention to be less reactive toward their “fun” toddler, tween or teen behaviors by stating ” I will maintain a calm demeanor ” as you approach your child as he is painting the walls with sharpie markers.
Setting intentions throughout your day will help you to take a mental pause to think about what outcome YOU want and and how you want to feel about it. Plan for it. Regain the control over your own emotions.
Now, of course things may not always work out the way you intend. However, I bet your reaction toward negative outcomes won’t be as detrimental. Control your mind and you’ll control your day.
Remember what you focus on expands. So, if you focus on the positive outcomes of your day, the positives are bound to expand.
If you focus on the negatives, the negatives are bound to expand. Either way it’s up to you. How do you choose to live?
Go ahead… give it it a try. Now it takes 66 days to form a new habit. I challenge you to begin this today!! Set those intentions!